Split Pea Soup

For the most part I try to be as impersonal on here as possible. I don't like having deep emotional feelings advertised on a public forum (though the Telewoman gets a regular update).Though I have divulged a few things on my personal level-for Pete's sake I told you about my yellow tea cup! And here's another personal factoid: I HATE peas but I love split pea soup!

Today I felt like breaking this emotional advertisement ban by spouting off. I'm not about to tell you anything specific or make a list of what's going on behind the four walls of this brain.HOwever what follows is something that's been on my mind for weeks now.

You see we all have flaws that we work on from time to time-perhaps we grow out of them,we overcome some through diligent effort, or perhaps we never quite master them through the whole of our lifetime though we are constantly are working on them, and they prove to be a thorn in the flesh either for us ourselves or to those we interact with.

It's been my experience that (for the most part) those who seem to offend you or hurt you do not have those intentions...in fact they usually have very good intentions. And those who may not have had the right outlook on a sticky situation initially, eventually come around to the right outlook. But that's usually a process. No one can correct imperfections or imperfect viewpoints simply, quickly nor perfectly.

It may start out all wrong. Good intentions but bad execution which end up in hurt feelings and a mess of a situation. That's where the practical guidance of a good friend, confidant, family member comes into play (especially if you've aired your grievances to them for the purpose of figuring out what went wrong). And hopefully this is the stage when righting the wrong or repairing the peace or quieting the contention becomes a genuine desire. That's the real starting line, though the entire process of repairing can be long and sometimes stressful.

Hence I applaud anyone who becomes aware of where they are flawed or have failed or the peace is disrupted, a puncture wound that needs to be fixed-as it were- and procedes to seek help in mending it or sets off to figure out how to fix it on their own. There are some situatiosn that cannot be dealt with alone-those are the major ones that we call in reinforcements for. But most of our lives we singularly tend to our foibles-perhaps silently at times. And it's because of that silent effort that we try not to assume too far beyond what we know for fact. In the words of Jane Bennet (Pride & Prejudice), "We do not wish to make [them] desperate" should someone be working on a particular personality blemish we happen to pick up on.

Glad we had this chat!